Rational Mind: When Logic Takes Over and Connection Gets Lost

“I was so focused on my taxes, I didn’t drink any water—and I didn’t notice my wife was upset.”

Michael had been at his laptop for hours, deep in numbers and deadlines. When his wife, Alex, came home and said, “I had a really bad day,” he responded without looking up:
“That’s great, honey.”

He didn’t mean it.
He just wasn’t there.

By the time Michael finally shut his laptop and got into bed, Alex had turned away.
“You just don’t care about me anymore,” she said.

Michael already had a pounding headache from being dehydrated. Now, once again, his wife was hurt—and he didn’t understand how it happened again.

The next day, Alex sat him down. She told him she appreciated how responsible he was and how hard he worked—but she felt invisible. Unseen. Alone.

In couples therapy, Michael began to understand what was happening.

He was living almost entirely in Rational Mind.

Rational Mind is logical, analytical, task-focused, and efficient.
It gets things done.

But it runs cold.
It lacks emotion, values, and connection.

Michael realized that while his taxes were getting done, his marriage was drifting. His body was paying the price too—weight gain, constant dehydration, exhaustion.

Rational Mind helped him function—but it wasn’t helping him live.

What Michael needed wasn’t less logic.
He needed Wise Mind.

Wise Mind is where logic and emotion come together.
It’s where we stay responsible without losing connection—to ourselves or the people we love.

If you recognize yourself in Michael, this isn’t a failure.
It’s information.

And it might be an invitation to slow down, check in, take a sip of water, and ask:

👉 What matters right now—beyond the task in front of me?

That’s the doorway to Wise Mind.